“Rejoice always; pray without ceasing; in everything, give thanks” (1 Thessalonians 5:16).
By Louis F. Kavar
The words from Paul’s letter to the ancient church in Thessalonica are familiar, both from the scripture itself as well as from choruses sang in many churches. Because the verse begins with the word, “rejoice,” there are often happy connotations made about this verse from Paul’s letter. As we celebrate the American Thanksgiving holiday, I’d like to consider the last phrase: in everything, give thanks.
When I was a child, I was taught to give thanks for the blessings I received on Thanksgiving. I remember laying in bed on Thanksgiving Eve, counting on my fingers and toes, all the things which made my life good. While there’s clearly merit in being thankful for good things in life, living in gratitude requires us to look at more than just what pleases us. After all, giving thanks for the good things we experience in life is the easy part of gratitude. Who wouldn’t be thankful to win a lottery jack-pot or find some other good fortune in life? But giving thanks for everything and living each day with gratitude – come what may – is quite a challenge.
In the 1980’s, when I served as a hospital chaplain, my work took an unexpected turn of events because of the emergence of AIDS in the United States. What began as a visit to one patient in intensive care grew to my appointment as director of a specialized ministry program within my denomination. As I worked closely with many people with AIDS in the eastern U.S., I met more than a few of the people who said things like, “AIDS was the best thing that happened to me.” While they knew that it was a medical condition which was killing them (and in that era, it was killing them because treatments were so primitive), the diagnosis of AIDS caused them to reassess life, relationships, goals and ambitions. Many began to develop aspects of their lives which they had not explored to that point. In that experience, they gave thanks, not for being terminally ill, but for the opportunity to become better people.
While reassessing life came at a very high price for these individuals (the loss of their lives), there was something important to the perspective they had. They came to the realization that everything we encounter in life, whether it’s easy or challenging, can be a gift. It is a gift because it provides us with an opportunity to grow more fully and more deeply in our embrace of life’s goodness and grace.
It is not that life’s difficulties are good in themselves. Instead, it is in the midst of very difficult circumstances, grace continues to be present. While the outcome of the situation may be dire, faith calls us to affirm that possibility of encountering goodness in the worst possible situations.
In the 14th Century, as the Black Plague swept through England, one of the great saints of church expressed her faith in God’s goodness in the midst of a dire situation. While suffering on what was thought to be her deathbed, not knowing whether she would live or die, Julian of Norwich came to a simple realization:
All shall be well,
All shall be well,
In all manner of things, all shall be well.
On this Thanksgiving, I invite you to join me in considering what it means to give thanks in all circumstances. Living with faith and gratitude is not just for the good times in life but also the difficult times which have caused us to be better, richer, people. It is in the joy and the pain that we have the opportunity to experience life in a rich and deep way. As we grow more in this awareness of grace’s presences in our life, perhaps we can affirm as did Julian that all shall be well.
© Louis Kavar, 2009. Louis F. Kavar, Ph.D., is an ordained minister in the United Church of Christ. A professional psychologist, Dr. Kavar writes about spirituality and personal growth. He lives in St. Louis.